Share the Love: 20 Out-of-the-Box Valentine’s Ideas!

Ah, Valentine’s Day. The Hallmark holiday that makes people feel obligated to display grand gestures of love. I am of the mindset that you should celebrate love all year long. If February 14th is the one time a year you express your love, you’re doing it wrong! Regardless of if you are coupled up or solo this year when cupid is flying around, spreading love is one of the best feelings in life, so let’s make it FUN!

This year will prove challenging due to COVID restrictions, but I dug deep and came up with a variety of ways you can entertain yourself, your partner, and even the kiddos this Valentine’s Day! I am going to try and keep this post PG-13, but reader beware, there are discussions on Sex, Drugs & Rock ‘n’ Roll…three of my favorite things.

Every year I want to do something nontraditional to celebrate this lovey-dovey holiday. This post is my Valentine to the world, fun ideas, gifts, and other ways to spice up your life and spread the love this upcoming week and beyond! Also, this goes out to everyone who does not want the played out “box of chocolates and flowers”, here are 20 ideas to treat yourself and all your Valentines. Most are DIY or able to be shipped quickly with Amazon Prime.

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Host a Palentine’s Event. People, show those non-romantic partners in your life some love! Plan a group zoom call, even gather socially distanced in the garage, backyard, rooftop, etc. Or pick up the phone and reach out individually to those boss babes and down ass dudes that make your life that much more awesome because they are in it. Love doesn’t have to be only romantic folks, plutonic love between friends and family can be some of the strongest bonds in life!

Drive-in Experience. From Movies to Raves, it’s all going down at the drive-in these last few months! Most areas that have a drive-in theater have utilized them as a great way to safely host events during COVID. Do a quick Google search to see what is available in your surrounding area. Perhaps there is something going down on the 14th, or maybe you just gift tickets to an upcoming show.

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DIY Spa Day. Life is crazy right now, everyone deserves a day of relaxation! Give yourself a mani/pedi, get some face sheet masks, have some bath bombs or shower soothers, rub yourself (or one-another) down with lotion/oil/massage melt bars. Want to get extra freaky? Try a hot soy candle. It burns at a lower temperature than regular candle wax and also provides a moisturizing element idea for all over the body.

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Name a Cockroach after your Ex. Have an ex that was just the worst? Name a cockroach after them and then have it fed to an animal at this San Antonio Zoo as part of their “Cry me a Cockroach” FUNdraiser! A great way to release that negativity out of your life. “For just $5, the Zoo will name a cockroach after your former significant other and feed it to a bird, reptile, or mammal. And if your ex-boo was an especially snaky one, pay $20 more to have zookeepers feed a frozen rat to a reptile instead. For those not into critters, the zoo offers a $5 herbivore option that consists of romaine lettuce, cabbage, and other leafy greens that can be fed to vegetarian animals. The best part of the deal? You don’t have to be at the zoo to watch your ex-turned-pest get eaten up. San Antonio Zoo plans to stream the feedings on Facebook Live. You’ll even receive a certificate to share on social media. If you’re feeling brave enough, post it and tag that unlucky someone. Jilted lovers have until February 13 at 6 p.m. ET to register on the zoo’s website. Only first names will be displayed during the event. The money raised is going to expanding the zoo’s jaguar exhibit” — CNN

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Send out Actual Valentines. Make handmade cards or pick up a box from the store, then send them out. Who doesn’t love personal mail! Put that homeschool art time to good use and share the love with friends, family & neighbors.  Or to take this to the next level, contact a local nursing home to see if you could make Valentine cards for the residents or even just hearts to display on the windows outside to literally show some love!

Play with Animals. Go to an animal shelter and see about volunteering, or just to play with the kitties and puppies. Animals need love too! Plus, who knows, maybe you will connect with one of the animals and decide it is time to add a fur baby to your life. Animals are great because they provide us with the unconditional love that we all deserve!

Learn more about the History of Vday. Do you know how this holiday tradition got started?! Read about the reason for the season of love here.  This is great especially if you have children you are teaching from home at the moment…instant lesson plan that covers the legend of St. Valentine, The origins of Valentine’s Day as a Pegan festival and a day of romance, as well as who is Cupid and typical Valentine’s Day greetings.


Music. Go old school & make a mixed tape! Or update that to a burned CD or custom playlist! Spotify now offers real-time music sharing (beta) with friends.  Share songs in real-time, make your own song line ups, and have the ability to actively change the tracks as you see fit to match the mood.  Very cool feature and a great way to be interactive and present with friends and lovers. 

Alcohol. Seems like most people have upped their drinking game since quarantine. If you are looking for something to gift the lover of libations, try a nice bottle of wine, special aged spirit, or even a craft beer sample pack. Add some fancy/custom drinking glasses, invest in a fun ice tray to make some heart-shaped ice cubes, or get condoms for your wine bottles…practice safe sips!  

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Lotto Tickets. With casinos closed, I know many a gambler who is hurting for some action. Scratch offs are great for all ages and are fun even if you don’t win. Plus, these are hard times, who wouldn’t love to win a little extra cash?!

Forever Flowers. Real flowers are beautiful, but they don’t last. If you would like to DIY the flora and fauna, check out this tutorial on making paper origami flowers. A great craft that the whole family can enjoy. If you are interested in something more luxurious that will stand the test of time, might I suggest a gold-dipped preserved rose. It will look as beautiful as the day you got it forever.

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Bacon Roses. Perfect for anyone on a Keto diet, or anyone who loves bacon! This easy DIY is a showstopper. Also great idea for Father’s Day! Simply roll up two slices of thick bacon, secure together by inserting a toothpick all the way through the lower half. Place in muffin tins and bake-off at 350 for approximately 12-15 minutes. Want to make them legit? Buy silk flowers from the dollar store and pop off the tops because you only need the stems. Insert the cooked bacon “rose” where the silk flower used to be, then for a finishing touch, bundle in wax paper then wrap with crate paper or cellophane for decoration.

Bacon Roses. Photo credit by Honey Jayne

NOT Chocolate. Believe it or not, there are people in this world who do not like chocolate. I know, sounds made up…annnnd dibs!  That being said, here are two of my favorite convenient treat ideas for your sweet: Conversation hearts.  I know, so cliche, but seriously, it’s like snow on Christmas…it just isn’t the same without it!  Plus, you can get sexy adult versions now, and who doesn’t love X-rated candy?! Also, on that same note, have you ever tried edible underwear? Now available in candy necklace style or the OG gummy versions.

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Chocolate. I had to include a few chocolate options just in case there is someone out there who is just burnt out on the same old run of the mill candy boxes but doesn’t want to give up on chocolate completely…don’t worry, I’ve got you. Make your own custom candy bars!  If you want to go full Chocolatier, you can make up your own flavor profiles and confection combinations. If that sounds a bit much, making a customized wrapper is another way to go. Looking for something different, but still a crowd-pleaser? Check out chocolate-covered potato chips! My personal favorite is the Mike Sells & Ester Price brand. And if it’s salty-sweet you’re looking for, we can take that a step farther to include chocolate-covered bacon.  

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Cannabis. Invest in some good old fashion Mary Jane!  A lot of states now have either a medical allowance or are fully recreationally legal. Try a pre-roll, pop a gummy, or enjoy an infused beverage.  Already a regular user? Get yourself/partner a new accessory!  Rolling trays, fun novelty pipe, flavored rolling papers, or even go all out and clean their current piece to look good as new!  Stock up on pipe cleaners, 420 cleaner & some gloves because your hands will get resin on them if you’re doing it right.  *PRO TIP: You can easily make your own homemade 420 cleaning solution by simply combining vodka and coarse salt together.


Book Time with a Sexpert. Not just any advice, but award-winning advice from *XBIZ Sexpert of the Year*!!! If you are looking for guidance from a sex-positive ganja goddess, I have just the person for you. Her name is Ashley Manta and she can help you unlock your own sex magic.  Published author many times over, including her just-released book Merry Jane’s The CBD Solution: Sex: How Cannabis, CBD, and Other Plant Allies Can Improve Your Everyday Life host of Elevated Intimacy podcast and multi-talented sex coach, Ashley Manta, The Cannasexual, is a wealth of resources and knowledge! I highly recommend engaging her services to add some spice to your life regardless of if you are in a relationship or single.

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Boudoir Photography Shoot. Boudoir photos are all about capturing intimate, sensual, and sometimes erotic images. This type of photography is great for building self-esteem! Now even men are getting in on the trend with “Dudeoir” sessions of their own. You can hire a photographer that specializes in this romantic style, and they will know how to pose you complimentary to your body type. If you find yourself a bit timid about doing this in front of a stranger, you can DIY this! Set up a tripod (bonus if there is a remote) with a full-length mirror behind it so you can see yourself. Make sure you have good lighting, a ring light is very helpful! Then, use the timed delay feature on your cell phone camera to give yourself 10 seconds to pose. Great things about this, you can take all the pictures you like, and only keep the ones you like best. Gives you total control over the process. But once you see how dang hawt you look, you’re going to want to make it your next Christmas card!

Vibrators. My personal favorite, that I have recommend to many-a-person, is the HITACHI MAGIC WAND.  This will pay for itself 100x over…you can thank me later!  Do not be intimidated or turned off by the fact this toy plugs into the wall, look at it as you’re getting more power than a battery can provide and you’ll never have to “borrow” batteries out of the remote ever again! There is no excuse to not get some this Valentine’s day as you can provide yourself with endless amounts of TLC when you practice self-love.  The great thing about masturbation?  It is the power of knowing your own body and the ability to control your own orgasm.  The great thing about a vibrator?  You don’t have to do all the hard work!  Great for all genders, vibes take things to the next level.  Literally, now there’s voltage involved.  

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Flavored Lube. The perfect way to surprise your partner and a nice incentive to spend some face time below the belt.  Take intimacy to the next level with a tasty alternative to regular lube.  Available in a variety of flavors and base lubricants to suit what fits your needs best.  My personal favorite is water-based Sliquid, in cherry-vanilla.  If you want to search for various taste options, please make sure to avoid lubes with sugar as they can cause irritation and infections, especially for vaginas. 

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In closing, I hope you all got the bigger message of this post…that love doesn’t have to be only romantic, in fact, some of the best loves are not. They are plutonic. The love of self, love of family, love of friends, love of country…the unconditional loves we are all worthy of! 

Don’t skip out on the love celebration just because you are not partnered up!  Sometimes the 14th of February is referred to as *single awareness day* and I think that’s BS.  This day should be a reminder to all that LOVE WINS.  Love yourself, love nature, love animals, love each other! 

Still thinking Valentine’s Day is not your thing? SKIP IT and celebrate Mardi Gras!  Just remember, in the words of the Queen of Drag, RuPaul herself, “How you gonna’ love somebody else if you can’t love yourself?!”  

Published by Honey Jayne

Imagine if Lisa Frank, Las Vegas and Halloween had a baby with Sex, Drugs & Rock 'n Roll...thats me in a nutshell!

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